Giving It Your All

Giving It Your All

Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could…
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Confession:  I am a cookbook junkie.  I have 50+ cookbooks and whenever I am at a book store, Sam’s Club, or garage sale, I always linger over the cookbooks that are either on display or tucked away just waiting for me to find them.  My husband indulges me because he bets the odds which says that he will get to sample at least one recipe from the cookbook I purchase.

I love the “Fix-It and Forget-It” cookbook series which is all about slow cooker cooking.  I don’t use my slow cookers (I own 3) nearly enough, and don’t ask me why because I know how much easier it would make mealtimes especially during the week when I have daily work deadlines that coincide with meal prep time and recently the sun has been out more after being absent for most of our winter so both my husband and son are outside having a good ol’ time while I am juggling our newborn with the aforementioned daily work deadlines.  The slow cooker could be the answer to many a quick prayer said hurriedly while gazing blankly into the cupboards trying to decide what meatless dish I will fix for us since I didn’t set any meat out to dethaw earlier in the day.  I mean, Fix-It and Forget-It could save my mealtime sanity, if only I did actually fix it… well, I’m getting there… I at least know where the slow cookers and the cookbook are in my pantry which is more than I can say for the 16 bread loaf pans I own and couldn’t find a single one the other day for our meatloaf (a day I actually sat out meat to thaw!), but that’s another story.

The other reason I like the “Fix-It and Forget-It” series is purely for the name alone… close your eyes and say it with me – “Fix-It and Forget- It”.  I don’t know about you, but it’s sort of liberating for me to both say it and hear it.  There is something to be said for fixing something and forgetting about it.  Of course, I often say it but like remembering to set out meat prior to 5pm, the actual doing of it is another matter.  When I can fix it (whatever it might be), I tend to keep going back to it, trying to analyze how it got broken, what can be done to prevent it from happening again, etc.   And if the “it” that I am to fix is something me related (weight, personal growth, fruits of the spirit, etc.) then I tend to focus on all the times I mess up, fall short, or otherwise fail miserably.  I cannot tell you how many nights I have been laying in bed trying to go to sleep, but all I could do was run through the day’s events and worry about decisions I made or did not make.  Made for many a night of strange dreams, restlessness, and an overall general sense of grumpiness the next day.

Worrying about all the mistakes I made accomplishes absolutely nothing.  Worrying is not good for me – often times the only thing worry does “for” me is make  me physically sick.  Worry is the opposite of letting go, forgetting, or of trusting.  Worrying has me focusing on the problem and not the solution.

If only I could “fix it and forget it” when it comes to day to day things and stop obsessing, worrying, and second guessing myself and the intentions of others.  If only I could do my best each day and forget (at least not focus solely) on my worst, then I’d already have a head start on tomorrow.  So long as I give each day my best, lay it all out there every day, then I can relax when today has become a yesterday and is behind me.  Of course, I know that the only way this will happen is if I give myself permission to forget…to stop analyzing what I could have done better.  I need to be determined each day to always give my best and secure each night that if I did fall short in an area, that it’s not the end of the world and that I don’t have to evaluate the day’s good or bad-ness by that one action alone.

Pick up a problem, do what you can with it, and then put it down for a while.  Work your tail off at the office, then leave it there (the work, not your tail).  Deal with a personal crisis by finishing off one day at a time.  Believe it or not, there can be a great deal of satisfaction in leaving things be for a moment rather than wasting time worrying about them.

Matthew 6:27-29
Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? And why worry about your clothing? Look at the lilies of the field and how they grow. They don’t work or make their clothing, yet Solomon in all his glory was not dressed as beautifully as they are. (NLT)

Proverbs 12:25

Worry weighs a person down; an encouraging word cheers a person up. (NLT)


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3 Responses to “Giving It Your All”
  1. Jennifer says:

    Excellent message! I so often have trouble with the forgetting part, myself.


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  3. Great post! I have a hard time leaving things be for a moment, but you’re right, worrying does nothing! I also second guess myself on everything. We can be really tough on yourselves, can’t we?

    Thanks for the good word!


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